I realized something about myself recently. It just dawned on me. It's like sometimes the way things hit you is kind of weird. But I realize that I am really shit at asking for help.
Like, really bad at it and it…stems from… so I've been doing this journaling practice digging into some stuff…but I think it stems from not wanting to bother people.
Or coming across as too needy of a friend or a sister or a daughter or a partner or whatever, colleague…
Here's an example for you.
I just sent out a text to three of my close guy friends asking for some help picking out a new bike. They're all really avid cyclers. So I need some help.
Even just in the act of, like, typing the message. Like “hey, could you guys help me? Point me in a direction?” Looking for this, you know, I know you guys might be able to help me out, kind of thing.
Friendly message…and I realize that, like, I almost didn't send it because I didn't want to like bother people and I didn't want to come off as a needy friend. Which is such a strange thing. So I'm recording this now because I'm realizing that it has often translated into my professional life.
Like a lot.
I'm very naturally suited towards teaching and helping, obviously, this whole PBH thing. All this I guess is to say that if you are like that, if you feel that as well, if you're resonating with what I'm saying…That it's okay.
It's okay to ask for help.
And the fact that you're aware of not wanting to push the boundaries of that, probably means that you're NOT pushing the boundaries of that.
That's my takeaway, for today.
We're all in this together.